Know Yourself First:
That Is Where Your Power Begins!
You need to be selfish.
Yes, I said it and no, it’s not a bad thing. You’ve likely been taught that focusing on yourself means being self-centered, greedy, or unkind. But what if the truth is the opposite?
When you give yourself the love, respect, and care you deserve first, you become full, radiating confidence, energy, and peace. And from that place, you have even more to give to others.
As a Certified Infinite Possibilities Coach and an authority on Compass Feng Shui having over 50 years of experience studying how people create their reality, I’ve learned that everything begins with how you treat yourself. You can’t give love or stability to others if your own tank is empty.
"Even with a full schedule, I made it a priority to get away in May with my husband to Lake Arrowhead. Sharing a peaceful meal together in a place that brings me joy, as well as making time to enjoy a spa day at the hotel with massages. It helped me reset and reminded me why I teach this work. When I take time to nourish myself, I come back clearer, more present, and truly able to give from a place of fullness."
A Black Tie Gala Fundraiser
Just a few weeks earlier, we had attended a black tie fundraising Gala for the Westlake Women's Club to support scholarships for local graduating seniors with strong academic achievements and financial need at 7 of our local High Schools! It was an evening full of purpose and deep connection.
These two moments couldn’t have been more different, yet both were rooted in one truth, when I follow what brings me joy, I am able to give generously and wholeheartedly. This is the energy I want to carry into everything I do.
Many of my clients have struggled with the idea of putting themselves first. They worry about being judged or rejected. You may even hear criticism when you begin to choose what truly supports your well-being. But those voices are not yours.
Let those opinions pass through you like a breeze through an open window. This is especially challenging for kind, empathic people who don’t want to hurt anyone. But here’s the truth: everyone is responsible for their own feelings. You are not responsible for their disappointment or confusion when you choose yourself.
If you feel constant betrayal in your relationships or home life, it could be connected to expectations you’re holding, expecting others to meet your needs. True healing begins when you meet those needs yourself. When you stop seeking validation or affection from others and fill yourself with your own self-love, everything changes. You become free to give from a place of abundance, not depletion.
And yes, others may resist when you change. They might criticize or pressure you to return to your old ways. That’s their fear talking. I’m here to remind you that you have permission to put yourself first. Teach this to your children and bullies will lose their power over them. You are the key to your own joy.
You are the foundation of your own sanity.
This has nothing to do with being rude or needing to be right. In fact, true spiritual maturity allows others to have their own opinions without needing to fix or change them. Your only job is to know yourself and give yourself what you need.
When you meet your own needs first, your vibration rises. You become magnetic. You stop comparing yourself to others because you recognize your unique energy, your irreplaceable gifts. Even if someone offers the same service you do, they can never bring your spirit, your essence, your presence to the work.
Too often, people try to earn love by giving too much, especially those raised to believe their worth depends on making others happy. I lived this. I was raised to believe it was my job to keep my mother happy. My father even told me this throughout my life. His belief was that if Mom was happy, everyone was happy.
But happiness isn’t a child’s job. Nor is it your job to be everything for everyone else.
When you try to please everyone, you get caught in a cycle of exhaustion. Others begin to expect more and more from you because they see you always showing up for them, even when your own needs go unmet. You give out of fear: fear of rejection, fear of conflict, fear of being unloved. And that fear can lead to emotional burnout, addiction, or deep resentment.
Divorce often happens when one partner expects the other to constantly make them happy. A client of mine experienced this. Her spouse demanded silence. Even turning a doorknob too loudly upset him. She realized she was walking on eggshells just to keep the peace. She wasn’t free to be herself in her own home.
So she made a brave choice. Not because she hated him or wanted revenge. She simply wanted to live in joy and presence with her children. And she realized she couldn’t do that while constantly suppressing herself. Her decision brought her closer to her kids. Today, they deeply respect her for honoring herself.
Self-love is the seed of all healthy love.
If you give everything to your job, your clients, your partner, or your children without meeting your own needs first, you’ll eventually feel resentful or lost. The highest form of love is unconditional, and that includes loving yourself with no expectations, no shame, no guilt.
So I ask you now:
What do you need to feel supported, joyful, and whole?
What lights you up?
Start there. Because the more you nourish yourself, the more beautiful your giving becomes.
FULL MOON referred to as the Strawberry Moon Arrives June 11, 2025 at 3:44 pm EST!
This full moon will be in the sign of Sagittarius, originally used to track the planting season, also referred to as the Rose Moon.
In Compass Feng Shui, a nature-based science rooted in observing cycles of the Moon, the planets, the tides, and the plant world, the full Moon represents a time of culmination and clarity. It marks the height of the waxing phase, when the seeds of intention planted at the new Moon have reached their fullest expression. Like a flower in full bloom, this is a moment when what was once hidden is now fully visible. It’s a powerful time of realization.
From this point, the lunar energy begins to shift. As the Moon enters its waning phase, a natural turning inward begins. This is a time for release, reflection, and refinement. The full Moon is very appropriate to support you in your journey of self discovery. Its illumination not only lights the sky but also shines a light within, helping you see more clearly where you stand, what has grown, and what may now be ready to be released.
The message I want to share with you through this cycle is an invitation to go within and Know Yourself. The rhythm of nature is always offering us guidance, and in this phase, it encourages inner stillness, self-awareness, and a deeper alignment with your truth. As we follow this natural flow, we are supported in letting go of what no longer serves and preparing the ground for a renewed beginning when the next new Moon arrives.
This full moon is referred to by Native American tribes located in the Northeast of the U.S. as the Strawberry Moon. It is associated with a time when harvesting of Strawberries occur here in the U.S. This is a time when many attend Strawberry Festivals this month and it has been thought that was how this Full Moon got it's name. Actually the name is due to it's rose/strawberry color being in close proximity to the horizon with the light rays having to pass through the densest light rays of the atmosphere.
This full moon is the perfect time to focus on self-care. Go within and listen to your intuitive voice, the Universe, the Creator or that which you call your higher guidance!
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NEW Monthly Visiting Energies Arrive on the 3rd of each Month!
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June 3rd Visiting Feng Shui Energy Continues to create of change.
On June 3, 2025 the new monthly visiting energy arrives in all buildings and brings the potential for wealth along with the continued change and separation dominating all buildings; commercial and residential in 2025. The clearer you become the easier it will be to let go and move in the direction of your desires.
This visiting energy this month relates to money. Most likely it will be associated with having more expenses associated with the yearly visiting energy of separation. This monthly energy is also associated with robbery, feelings of betrayal, cravings for alcohol, addictions, vanity and increased desire to shop, and feeling of imprisonment. How positive this energy is depends on the permanent energy of your building!
If you have had a comprehensive building energy report done on your home or business by me then you are aware of the permanent energy captured in all nine quadrants of your home or business. Refer to your report for the proper remedy I listed specific to your building's energy to help combat this challenging energy!
Remember the energy does not shift until the 3th of each month in 2025, peaking around the 12th through the 18th of the month! During June this peak of energy falls the week before the New Moon arrives on June 25 giving you the clarity you need to set set new intentions when the new moon arrives!
Your building's center quadrant energy is very important as is the room where you sleep and the entrances you use often. The center quadrant energy has the greatest potential influencing everyone living or working in the building.
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Wealth visits this month, which could result in an advancement of your career, but could bring with it some contradictions as the year and monthly energies combined bring the potential for separation of wealth, relationships, outdated habits and old beliefs, peaking around June 18th through June 23rd.
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